© 2019 by Alejandra Chayet, M.A., LPCC

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Sex Therapy in San Diego, CA

I work with individuals and couples on understanding themselves as sexual beings, whether this relates to their individual journey or within their relationships. I do this through helping you explore your sexual identity, expression and behaviors, as they relate to your goals. This work is done through talk therapy. My work includes Women’s Sexuality, Men’s Sexuality, Couples and the LGBTQI community.


Common issues I work with include:

  • Orgasm concerns

  • Pregnancy & Fertility issues

  • Postpartum 

  • Sexual trauma

  • Body image

  • Performance concerns

  • Painful intercourse

  • Erectile dysfunction

  • Infidelity

  • Loss of interest/libido

  • Desire/arousal concerns

  • Premarital counseling

  • Marital Counseling / Relationship counseling

  • Sexual behavior experienced as problematic/compulsive

  • Sexual identity development

  • The interplay of religion & spirituality with sex 


My Perspective on Sexual Health

I view sexual health as a fundamental value and essential piece of health and well-being, in all of its forms and variations, unique to each individual. Sexual health, "requires a respectful and positive approach to sexual behavior and sexual pleasure (and) balances sexual rights such as safety, consent, non-coercion, non-discrimination with congruence between individual and societal sexual values, behavior and desires regarding sex with oneself and with others," (Harvey Institute). Through this perspective, it is my belief that sexual health is a part of the basic pillars, alongside mental health, physical health, and spiritual health.

I believe Sexual Health looks, feels, smells and sounds differently for everyone. In individual or couple sex therapy, it is important we first find out what having a "healthy" or "ideal" sex life would look like for you and for your relationship, before starting the part of our work together to help you achieve that.

My work with adults may include:

  • Exploring sexual narrative through individual therapy

  • Processing societal/cultural messages received regarding sex & sexuality

  • Understanding desire & arousal patterns

  • Cultivating sexuality

  • Couples work on sexual temperaments

  • Couples work on exploring sexual lifestyle​​

In my work with parents and youth, I help offer support to parents who are challenged with answering the difficult questions related to sexual health and may not always be confident in how to answer.


My work with parents might include:

  • Creating a sex-positive environment in the home

  • Learning language to use with children when discussing sexual health

  • Supporting transition through puberty

  • Psychoeducation on safe sex practices

  • Supporting a child who is exploring gender identity

  • Supporting a child who is exploring sexual orientation

  • Providing parent-support resources

  • Exploring resistance to being open with child about sexual health topics